Important of healthy relationship

Our relationship with others is one major factor that characterizes us as humans and distinguishes us from animals. Because relationship makes the world go round, we all demand a healthy and happy relationship with our partners, loved ones and everyone we relate with on daily basis.

A healthy relationship is essential for maintaining our mental health and psychological problems affecting many people can be traced to abusive relationships.

A lot of young persons have been in many bad relationships that they do not know what a healthy one looks like. These traits I’m sharing below should give you an idea of what to look out for in a relationship which is healthy.

Both Partners Trust Each Other

There is absolutely no relationship without trust. It is the bedrock of any kind of relationship you can think of.

In a healthy relationship, both partners can trust each other without any form of reservation. They can also vouch for each other’s character and be sure that even when saying the truth is not favourable, they would always be faithful to each other.

Openness

Both partners in a healthy relationship can freely communicate their feelings, emotions and wants.

They are not afraid to express how they feel, knowing fully well that the other partner is there to help them get through any issue they might be having.

Both Parties Are Responsible For Their Happiness

In my post titled the principal way to finding happiness in your relationships, I made it clear that the first way to have a happy relationship with others is to first love yourself. That is, you must first be happy with yourself.

People in a relationship must know that they are responsible for their own happiness. We often make the mistake of pushing the burden of making ourselves happy to the other person, however, this should not be.

Partners should know that they are there to compliment and support each other, not to shift responsibility entirely unto the other person.

Conflicts Are Handled Maturely

One of the traits of a good relationship is that both persons involved deal with issues in a matured way. It is impossible for misunderstandings not to arise in an association of two different people, however, the conflict is resolved amicably and everyone moves on.

Those in healthy relationship do not make reference to their partner’s past mistakes. In addition, your thinking should not be how to jet out of the relationship every time conflict arises.

No Abuse

Abuse in relationships can be emotional, physical or verbal. All these are contrary to characteristics of a healthy relationship.

Both partners respect each other’s feelings not to engage in any form of abuse. Good relationships seek ways to settle scores without name calling, battery or adoption of silent treatment.

Both Partners Put The Relationship First

Because they value each other, partners in healthy relationship do not do things or take important decisions that will affect the relationship without considering the other person. There is no selfishness in a good relationship.

Their Reason For Being Together Is Unconditional

Today, almost everyone wants to be in a relationship because of the benefits they want to get from the other person.

A healthy relationship is an unconditional one, with love as the binding factor. Partners are not in it for financial, material or physical reason.

A healthy relationship can weather any storm because people are in it for the right reasons.

The Relationship Is 100-100

One piece of advice we hear from relationship counsellors is that a relationship should be 50-50, a good relationship, however, should be 100-100.

A healthy relationship is one in which both partners commit to giving 100% each.

The idea of giving a 50 means you are withholding some part which will not augur well if you are to get your partner to fully commit to the relationship.

The Relationship Is Fun

A very good trait of a healthy relationship is that you are enjoying it and not enduring. You can do things together and share wonderful moments.

No One Is Trying To “Manipulate” The Other

In a healthy relationship, partners are not trying to manipulate or fix each other.

Both persons respect each other’s differences and acknowledge that neither force nor nagging can change anyone.

There are other characteristics to measure a healthy relationship, however, these are the most important ones.

Please bear in mind that a healthy relationship does not mean total absence of misunderstanding, however, if the relationship ticks more than 60 percent of these characteristics, then you can say that it is most likely a good one.

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